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January 24, 2013

A Rural Journal: {I remember nothing.}


So I'm reading this book called "I Remember Nothing" by the late Nora Ephron.

It's a collection of short essays on the foibles we encounter later in life.  One of them being memory.
Or the lack thereof. I find myself in this situation more than not. And it can be quite disturbing at times. Especially since my dad passed away in 2007 after a long unsuccessful battle with Alzheimer's.

Back to the book, the author initially reflects on her inability to remember people's names, whether she ever actually met them and if so, the details of their last encounter. I would describe that situation as rather common -- not being able to place a face with a name.

I could only wish my memory mishaps involved something so typical as the uncomfortable "who is this person?" scenario.

My memory lapses tend to be more short-term. For example,

I am apt to boil food such as potatoes and eggs on the stove dry, in a matter of a few minutes;

I'll take sandwich makings out of the fridge, then a minute or two later, can't locate the bologna which I find I have put back into the fridge before putting it on the bread;

I have trouble remembering the name for orchids. I always want to call them lilies;

I forget to clean the bathrooms (well, not really, but that's my story);

I'll walk outside with one purpose in mind, then stand 20 feet from the back door, mumbling Why the hell did I come out here anyway? (holding a bag of garbage in my hand -- true story).

With my family history as it is, obviously these frequent what the f*ck? moments startle me. 

And there's really no scientific method to determine whether it's a normal facet of aging, menopause or something much more serious.

I've thought about taking a supplement for better brain function, but predictably, I can't remember the name of it.

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56 comments:

  1. Well, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. ;)

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  2. Just assume it's hormonal changes. My post-menopausal mind is nothing like it used to be.

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  3. I join you in this . . I always ask for help from my class when taking role - it's understood that I know lots of stuff - and often forget - even my own - name . . and, sometimes i can picture what I'm trying to convey, but can't call up English words . . so, my classes help - it's really quite fun, it's "just the way i am" - and - I've learned to deal . . . love & love, -g-

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  4. I was going to write something here, but can't remember what it was.... :\

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  5. Well your not the only one, Nancy. I can't remember names either. Faces, yes...names, no. And I really wondered about me the time I found the bag of lettuce in the silverware drawer!

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  6. i think my issues is i have a lot on my mind - instead of dealing with one issues at a time - i get side tracked & then i forget small bits of info. i think today's society we like to multitask a lot - i think that's bad thing - it can & does get us into bad forgetful situations. ha. ha!! why i make lots of lists ... when i think of something i want to NOT forget i write it down. when i unplug something I say to myself out loud so i can hear "i am unplugging the flat iron, or locking the door" ... it helps. try it??! one suggestion i have a friend because she would forget this or that in that AM running out the door. get everything ready the night before have it by the door & then you can just run. have a chalkboard or ink board (what do they call those thingys?) my the door & write yourself notes or whatever it maybe to help you out. i've also heard doing crossword puzzles the mind. other mind exercising too??! something to look into ... have you checked with your doctor? maybe she/he could give some suggestions to you. ( :

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  7. I hear you Nancy... I have those things happen too... My hubby is a lot worse so I'm trying to remember for 2

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  8. Gorgeous photo of one of nature's gems ~ Great post about memory ~ aging ~ all part of life ~

    (A Creative Harbor) ^_^


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  9. I believe the worst thing I've had happen (that I can actually remember) was driving through town trying to remember where I was headed.
    This bleep happens to me all the time. I can think of something great to write and then forget it as soon as I thought of it.
    Biggest puzzle is after a long drink of water... "Did I take my pills with that?"

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  10. These days I write a list of everything to do for the day or else it's forgotten. That list often includes 'go to work' and 'take a shower'

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  11. Oh Nancy....I am soooo with you. On both the memory lapses AND the dad who recently passed from Alzheimers. The combo of the two causes me feel TERROR at times. Seriously. The state of my bathrooms tho? I'm just gonna say the terror paralyzes me at times :)

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  12. :) the title of your post (and the book) made me think of sgt. schultz from hogan's heroes.

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  13. Actually, I think you are quite normal!!! LOL :)

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  14. Just know you are in good company.

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  15. I think you are going to be in really good company on this one...and your right, it does scare the heck out of me, my grandmother had alzheimers and my dad, well it's hard to say he may be just suffering the old age thing ... I have been in a panic because I couldn't find my phone, and my daughter just looked at me and said, mom...it's in your hand. And it's so much worse after menopause...I plead the fifth on the state of my bathroom!! xo

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  16. This happens to me, too! I will walk into a room and stop to think "Wait. Why did I come in here?" And stand there for a few seconds until I remember. Sheesh.

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  17. I suffer also.When we have the family background does one worry more?There is testing that can be done, but I think many would call it a senior moment.

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  18. I agree with Kim...you're in good company.

    My neighbor sent me a joke recently that tells it like it is.

    'These days, I spend a lot of time thinking about the hereafter. I go into a room to get something, and then wonder what I'm here after.'

    Have to say...I like that excuse for the bathroom, though.

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  19. I take B-12. I read Still Alice last summer and I'm still haunted. I've had memory issues off and on since the skull fracture I had in 1998, and it worries me.

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  20. I would laugh, except it is painfully familiar! Getting older ain't for sissies, I tell ya! Big hugs from one forgetful lady to another!

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  21. I'm the same way Nancy and Alzheimer's/Dementia runs in my family so I worry a lot lately about my 'senior moments'. They say if you eventually remember the thing you forgot that it's okay. Normal. But if you can't remember the thing or it's purpose then it could be a problem. Time to talk to your family doctor for reassurance?

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  22. I normally forget where i live. But that is after a full night out on the ale, apart from that ive got a pretty good memory.............DAM, i forgot to pick the kids up from school, Be right back !!!!

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  23. Lyme really knocked my memory for a loop. Judging from comments, you have plenty of company. My dad had Altzheimers, so when I misplace my keys I'm usually sure that's it.

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  24. You are not alone, I have the same memory loss. And have been told it is common for women going thru menopause? My father had Dementia, which is also scary. There are some things I wish i could forget, LOL!

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  25. You are just clearing out your brain for new memories....get a new mattress and sleep well, it did wonders for me♫ Visiting from Cool Clicks today, here's my effort: http://lore-eleven.blogspot.com/2013/01/as-rural-postal-carrier-i-come-upon.html

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  26. I think you are probably trying to do too many things at once. Well, that's the excuse I use anyway and I'm sticking to it! I'm right there with ya' on forgetting things on the stove. I now will NOT leave the kitchen until it's finished or I set a timer. The "I forgot to clean the bathroom" excuse sounds like a GREAT idea to me! ;)

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  27. Having a history of Alzheimer's in the family, as well as having cared for several folks with Alzheimer's/Dementia I know how you're feeling. Believe it or not, rosemary helps...you don't even have to take it, just smell it.

    Really though, with all you do, would you expect somebody else in the same situation to remember things perfectly? Speaking of which...I was writing out a grocery list today, and even though I can't stand jello ended up writing down lemon jello instead of pudding. Sheesh.

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  28. Nancy, I know how you feel. I do pretty much everything you have said here - and then some!
    I have wondered for about 10 years now if I might have early onset Alzheimer's because of my forgetfulness. They told me I was too young.
    People can have heart attacks in their 20's; how do they know I was too young in my 40s, to have Alzheimer's?
    I make tons of notes now, for everything and as long as I don't forget to look at them, or take them with me (in the case of shopping lists), I do okay. As long as I don't pour coffee on my tea bag, etc. ;o)

    *hugs* Nancy. God bless. ♥

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  29. Much of what you mention sounds very familiar to me. I don't have any family history of dementia, but I do have a million things going through my mind at one time. I laughed about the supplement, because I remember once deciding that I'd take ginko for better memory, but I could never remember to take it. Oh well. I suspect you have lots going on, and the distractions are just a symptom.

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  30. I have a terrible memory for names but felt really awful the other day when I saw a woman I worked with for around five years and I still can't remember her name :o(
    Yes, it's certainly a worry with Mom now suffering with dementia.
    Rose H
    P.S. I'm off to get some rosemary :o)

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  31. Nancy, I feel your pain. I am going through the same here. Since working with Mom and her Alzheimer's, it does tend to enter you mind, that thought...Could it be possible....I hear there are some type of Markers that show up in the brain of individuals, that may be a clue as to whether we are likely to have or get Alzheimer's, but when I mentioned it to my new doctor, she did not sound too optimistic about it being of any help.We can only hope that help may come for us,soon.

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  32. I just hate those moments...specially when I am in the middle of telling something and totally forget what the point of the story was. I could not survive without times...

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  33. funny - I have same issue with cleaning the bathroom

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  34. You aren't alone! I have notes all over the place... and then forget to look at the notes!

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  35. Sounds like a good book. I always have these moment.

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  36. Oh those brain cramps. Sadly, I know them well. Age? Nope, let's blame it on busy lives with lots on our minds. ;)
    xo Catherine

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  37. I was worried like you too. My biological dad had Alzheimer's by the time he was in his late 60's and died from complications in his early 70's.

    I, like you, was concerned that my memory loss issues could be related. I even went to Neurol-Psychiatrist and all is fine. It is just the change of life...whopeee!!!

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  38. Much better taking supplements Nancy! Went through this too! You did not forget however to take great photos! Great shot!

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  39. yes, well... been there done that. yikes. We're all in it together - remember that next time you're outdoors holding the trash. :-D

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  40. I have my moments of 'what the f*ck?" but fortunately not as often as they used to be. Not sure what changed except perhaps less balls in the air at any given moment. I'll need to check out this book by Nora Ephron - love her work.

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  41. Can't tell you how many times I go into another room in my house or outside and can't remember why I went there :/ Oh, and yeah...I forget to clean my bathrooms as well ;)

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  42. I can also relate. And often tell people who asked me what I did over the weekend etc. "How about asking me something about the Civil War or George Washington. I do better there.".... seriously.

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  43. A good supplement would be 'Gingko Biloba'. We have taken it for about ten years just to keep everything healthy up there!! Look it up Nancy, it may help somewhat.
    I have another theory about memory loss. I believe some of it can be accounted for due to the amount of things/events/stresses we keep stored and ever present in our minds. When we have so much popping up all the time, it is no wonder we lose our focus in the present. when we are making a sandwich,. that should be our only focus.....it takes practice to ignore all the crap that is ever present in our minds. This is not a proven theory but something to think about.

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  44. This is where I'm at, too, forgetting things. Twice over the last few years I've signed my maiden name to something. I've been married 28 years!

    One day I stopped at a red light and forgot what I was supposed to do next...

    I am only 47 years old. My grandma was 76 years old when she died with Alzheimer's. My aunt says that, looking back, she realizes that my grandma was showing signs of it in her 40s. This thought scares me to death. I don't want to be pushed aside and treated like I have no value just because I can't remember and that "can't remember" has a name, one that is allegedly incurable.

    I'm not going to claim it. I'm just going to chalk it up to a high-stress life and start eating more fruits and veggies and less meat, sugar and junk food!

    I hope that everything works out fine for you.

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  45. I do the same thing. You may find it more unsettling in light of your dad's diagnosis. It never hurts to get some reassurance from your doctor.

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  46. I know exactly what you're talking about. I've started eating blueberries, and yes, take gingko biloba every day. I'm not sure it's helping, but now I'm afraid to stop to see!!

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  47. well, you are not the only one, nancy. same here. i can't remember names either.
    i loose my keys all the time and i have notes all over the place to remember things that are important.

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  48. I should read that book. I've read 'I Feel Bad About My Neck', by Nora Ephron, and loved it. (That applies to me also.. just like the memory troubles.) I have actually forgotten my glasses are on a couple of times. I kid you not. And i'm always forgetting where i put the blanking car keys...

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  49. I blame menopause for everything, especially my memory blanks.Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things hop xo

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  50. Gingko biloba...I've been taking it but I still am forgetful :) I've noticed myself doing very similar things, and it is disturbing.

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  51. Sometimes it's the memory and sometimes I'm just not paying any attention. There are days when I walk into the office and cannot remember a single thing about how I got there...my route, traffic, etc. I'm blameing everything on STRESS!!!

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  52. I think we all have "brain farts" periodically. I frequently walk into another room in the house and then have no idea why I am there....

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  53. well, my youngest suggested fish oil for my memory lapses, and they do seem to help. I don't have any family history such as yours, but, again my youngest, says it's my age. I'm just so thrilled to have my 73rd birthday next month that I'll just celebrate what's good and shovel the rest out of my memory!

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  54. perdre la mémoire c'est plonger dans le noir, une appréhension pour une personne qui en est conscient ; mais quant la personne ne se rend conte de rien, elle fait cela machinalement. A 23 ans je suis sorti d'un comma de 9 jours qui a effacé certaine donné . Je ne pouvais plus lire ni écrire et cela jusqu’à' 36 ans . Depuis là j'ais repris gout a l'écriture et écrit de peurs de retomber dans ce trou que je dit noir .JJM

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